You May Be Right. I May Be Crazy.

If there’s one book you should read (besides mine slated to release in February) it’s The 4 Agreements by Miguel Ruiz. 

Today we’re going to talk about the second agreement, Don’t Take Anything Personally.”

This one is one of the hardest agreements for most people to master and let me tell you…I’m still working on this one. It’s a doozy!

You may be totally right. I may be totally crazy…but if I am immune to opinions and actions of others then I won’t become the victim of needless suffering by obsessing on whether or not you think I’m crazy.

I put myself out in the world on a daily basis by sharing videos, photos and words. Sometimes people say really nice things and sometimes people are just downright mean. Some of the negative comments I’ve received looked like this:

“You would look better with a bag over your head.”

“Her only talent is breathing.” (On a video of me dancing)

“Taraleigh Weathers is friggin annoying.”

“Are you kidding me with this sh*t.”

“Horse-face!”

You get the point. People can be mean. A couple of years ago these comments would have crushed me. I would have forgotten about all the positive feedback I received and focused on these worrying whether or not I was ugly, annoying and had any talent. Since I read The 4 Agreements I looked at those comments in a different light.

“Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality.”

Maybe those people were jealous. Maybe they were bored. I don’t know what motivated them take the time and energy to try to tear me down, but it’s ALL about them and not at ALL about me. People who are happy wouldn’t write these things about someone they don’t even know in real life. It’s obvious they’re suffering and I feel compassion for them and forgive them. Knowing it has nothing to do with me allows me to move on. It allows me to be immune to the opinions and actions of others and kept me from being the victim of needless suffering.

The same goes when I get positive feedback. I won’t let all the awesome things you all say about me go to my head because nothing others do is because of me. It’s pretty arrogant to think what others say and do is all about me. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality…so if you are taking the time to give someone positive feedback it is a projection of your own reality. If you find yourself trolling message boards and leaving mean comments about people think about what that means about you…since it’s ALL about YOU and YOUR Reality.

Don’t give a flying fart what others think of you and you’ll be free to be you in all your freaky glory.  <<<Tweet this

Is this concept hard for you to put into practice? I totally get it. I get a lot of support around this since I’m a human being and as a human I have an ego.

What are you taking personally right now? How can you apply this agreement to the situation? Let’s talk about it. Join the conversation.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. I’m grateful for you.

Love and light,

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Why I Named My Ego Sheila

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Does your ego easily get hurt? Does it whine and complain? Does it love to play the victim sometimes? Does it thrive on attention? Does it keep you from shining your light?

I don’t know about you, but my ego is a bitch sometimes.

Don’t worry.  This happens to the most spiritual people. As my friend Cora Poage likes to say, “We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” As humans we have egos whether we like it or not.

Instead of shutting down our egos we need to start embracing them.  Give it a voice. I named my ego Sheila. I tell her,”I know you’re hurt right now, but sometimes it’s not all about you. Don’t take things personally and I love you and your sparkly ways.” I give Sheila a hug and a moment to heal from whatever hurt her because her feelings are real and I let her know I acknowledge them. I let her know she may chill out and relax for a little while as my heart and soul are going to step up and make my decisions right now. Since I acknowledged her and her feelings she totally understands. Sheila is a rock star.

Now I’m free to live a life full of love, happiness and joy that is passionate, purposeful, based on heart centered choices, service, giving and receiving.

This quiets Sheila and keeps her happy.

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What’s your ego’s name? 

Join the conversation <3

xoxo,

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Follow Your Intuition or Get Bitch Slapped

I was thinking about what to write my blog about this week when I decided to take a moment to be silent. I took a moment to listen to my intuition and it said to write about intuition.  My intuition told me to write about intuition. It’s so self-centered always wanting to talk about itself. Haha!

I am going to share with you two stories. One where I followed my intuition and one where I didn’t.

Story One: I Tried to Catch the Flu

I went to college and majored in dance. I loved to dance and I spent a lot of time auditioning for companies and shows. My heart and soul wanted to perform. I was doing pretty well, but I didn’t have health insurance and I never knew exactly how I was going to pay my rent. I got the opportunity to teach dance at a public school. My intuition was screaming, “Nooooooooooooooooo!” My parents, friends and family were screaming, “Yeeeeeeeesssssssss! Everyone kept telling me how lucky I was and what a great opportunity it was. I was offered a salaried job with really great health benefits. I heard a million reasons from other people as to why I “should” take this job…so I did totally ignoring my intuition.

I was grateful to have a job and on paper it seemed awesome. In reality I had 35 kids in a tiny room trying to teach them to dance. If one of the kids in my class seemed really sick, I would get close to them so I would get sick too. When I was driving there I would fantasize getting into a car accident so i wouldn’t have to go. One day I hurt my back really bad and the doctor said I couldn’t go to work and I actually yelled, “Woohoo” in his office. I was excited about being hurt because I wouldn’t have to go to work. Those were signs from my intuition. My intuition was like, “Lady…you better start listening to me!” Those voices couldn’t be silenced and they were getting louder and louder.

I wish I could tell you I quit that job on my own, but I didn’t. I was going to, but then they eliminated my position which was such a blessing. I thought, “Heck yeah Universe! Thank you!” I received unemployment for a year and during that year I really found myself and started on a journey where I listened to my intuition most of the time.

Story Two: My Intuition Knew What My Domain Name Should Be

I have owned a lot of domain names. Yummyday.com, taraleighweathers.com, rockoutwithyoursoulout.com, taraleighlove.com, hothealthylove.com and others that I can’t remember. I have always wanted my domain name to be taraleighlovesyou.com for years and I would always listen to other people instead of my intuition. They would tell me  I should have a domain name that is shorter, taraleighlovesyou is cheesy or no one will remember that domain name so at the last minute I would chicken out and change it to something else. With the other domain names I never felt proud of my name. It felt like a dress that is really cute on the hanger, but when I put it on it just didn’t fit right. I really don’t like it when my clothes don’t fit right so eventually I had to listen. The day I purchased taraleighlovesyou.com is the day my business changed. It became so authentic. Everything else fell into place. My peeps came to me because the people I want to work with love that taraleighlovesyou is my domain name. Maybe they think it’s cheesy…but they love cheesy! If you don’t like cheesy things then you probably don’t like me either. I am the queen of the cheese.

Do you have a story when you followed your intuition?  Do you have a story when you didn’t? Share your stories by writing a comment below.

xoxo,

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