“You’re very ummmmmmm different?” she said to me laughing.
I responded confidently, “I agree!”
A woman said this to me last week while I was cruising the racks at an upscale resale shop in New York City. Even though I took it as a compliment, she didn’t mean it that way. She was eluding to the fact that being different was a negative thing. In many places on our planet it’s forbidden to express yourself, but thankfully that’s not the case here in the United States. We’re free to be whoever we are and to dress the part no matter what that looks like. In Vermont where I live, you’re even allowed to be naked in public as long as you don’t disrobe outside.
Music festivals were the first place I experienced a true freedom to be myself where I dressed the part too. Out in the judgmental streets I wandered at home, I was scared to express myself because I was afraid of what people might think of me if I did. Not only with fashion, but in general. My outside was a reflection of what was going on inside. I rarely spoke up or stood up for myself.
I hated my job.
My boyfriend at the time was physically and mentally abusive.
Some of ‘friends’ took advantage of me because I let them.
I was in a funk when I wasn’t at a show or festival.
I went over the top crazy when I was at shows and festivals.
Feeling super frustrated, I held myself hostage in my office. I wasn’t allowed freedom until I figured out what the next steps were in my business. Things were going slow and I was barely making a profit. I knew I had some awesome ideas that would change the world, but I didn’t know how to get them out of me. Attempting to force them out with all my might, while feverishly working on my computer, didn’t seem to be working. I slammed my laptop shut and went on a Phish Halloween run in Atlantic City instead.
Totally forgetting about my business, I surrendered fully into the experience that is a Phish concert. And that’s when it hit me. I looked around at the crowd of tens of thousands of people when the light bulb went off. If even 1% of these people care at all about what I’m doing, I will be extremely successful.
I had been wanting to create online coaching programs, retreats, workshops, talks and write a book that had the live music fanatic in mind, but I talked myself out of it thinking that it was too small of a niche.
I had spent a couple of years working my ass off, offering programs to everyone and no one was buying. The reason? I wasn’t Continue reading →
There’s been something inside of you that’s trying to tell you something extremely important. It’s been talking to you since you were a kid and at one point you heard it and did what it said without much thought. And it was glorious! Until someone told you it was stupid and you shut it down. That person/people didn’t know what they were talking about because your inner voice/guidance is and has always been a genius and knows what’s up. Now that you’re an adult the voice may be just a muffled whisper, but it’s still there trying to get your attention. Start to listen to it as that voice is your most valuable consultant. Like millions of dollars an hour valuable. At least. Probably more.
In the song The Rainbow Connection, The Muppets tell it like it is.
I’ve heard it too many times to ignore it.
It’s something that I’m supposed to be.
Someday we’ll find it,
The rainbow connection,
The lovers, the dreamers, and me.
You know those moments that happen in life when everything comes together and you feel so joyous that at any moment you may combust into a pile of dirt, sand and glitter?
I have felt that way many times in my life.
Once at my wedding when I looked around and saw my beautiful new husband and realized that everyone in the room was there because of us and I felt a huge wave of love.
At the end of the yoga class I taught in New Orleans that Oteil and Kofi Burbridge had played for and we were all huddled in a circle. Everyone had just said one word that they were feeling and we were all crying.
A couple of weekends ago at Waking Windows in Winnoski, VT I was dancing front and center while Madaila played. The weather was perfect, I was wearing my sparkle skirt and the music was singing to my soul.
TheNEWDEAL first began in Toronto in 1999, quickly gaining support from Toronto’s underground club scene as pioneers in electronica, recreating the DJ experience with live, improvised music. Soon the band brought their interpretation of Electro House, Trance, Breakbeat and Drum & Bass to the US, where they were embraced by the crowds at NYC’s Wetlands Preserve and cultivated a loyal following in the American jam scene.
After twelve years of touring, theNEWDEAL took a hiatus in 2011 and returned to stages in 2014. I am a huge fan of theNEWDEAL and have seen them many times including their last show before hiatus on Jam Cruise. It blew my mind and I was so upset that the band was no longer going to play together. Sometimes things are so exciting that I can’t contain myself. TheNEWDEAL playing again was one of those things and I almost spontaneously combusted into a pile of dirt, sand and glitter, but I didn’t and since I’m still here I was granted the opportunity to interview keyboardist Jamie Shields all about the magic he brings into the music scene and the world.
People often ask me what I do for “work” and one of the things I do that makes my heart sing is that I lead a virtual coaching program for live music fans called Rock Your Life Mentorship.
The mentorship provides so many amazing things for its participants (like community, accountability, the tools to manifest all the concert tickets you desire) and one of my favorite parts is when we get to connect with the mentors on the phone. Those calls are always magical because the people I pick are heart and soul centered, open and honest and ready to answer any questions that are brought to them by the participants. Even though some of them might be your idols that you put up on pedestals they are just like us. Sometimes they can’t get out of bed, sometimes they feel like their worlds are crashing down on them and sometimes they are afraid to step on the stage and play the first note.
We’ve gotten to talk to Oteil Burbridge from the Allman Brother’s Band and Dead and Company, Zach Deputy, Mike Rempel from Lotus, Eli Winderman from Dopapod, Matt Butler from Everyone Orchestra, Brock Butler from Perpetual Groove, Bill Carbone from Max Creek, Ryan Monbleau, Al Smith from American Babies and others.
Rock Your Life Mentorship is starting in November and our first mentor is photographer Jay Blakesberg. If you love live music and have seen photos from shows and festivals, chances are most of the really great ones came from Jay. He’s photographed everyone from the Grateful Dead to Paul Simon to Dave Matthews and everyone in between. His newest book (which I’m featured in) is called Hippie Chick: a Tale of Love, Devotion and Surrender.
Many people come up to me and ask me how I’m happy and positive ALL the time. My answer is, “I’m not.”
Even though I am a sparkly unicorn, I’m also a human being. As a human being it’s impossible to be happy and positive ALL the time. Being happy all the time is like music without the rest symbol. It wouldn’t exist. The rest is just as important to the music as the notes.
Sadness is just as important to life as the happiness.
Festivals have their ups and downs too. At Grand Point North this year I witnessed Marco Benevento choosing to literally Continue reading →
I was at a rest area in upstate NY on my way to MayFest when I ran into a beautiful being. She stopped me and said something like, “Hi Taraleigh. I’m a huge fan of yours and I love your videos. They have really meant a lot to me and helped me to shift my life. Thank you.”
At first I felt a little embarrassed because I’m not cool enough to have a fan. Then it occurred to me that it’s not weird at all. I put everything that I learn out there into the world even though I have no idea how anyone is perceiving it or if anyone is even listening. Little signs like this are are messages to keep on doing what I’m doing. If even one person watches or reads something I put out there and it shifts something in them it’s worth a million hours of my time.
With that being said, I’m going to start recording weekly videos that give you a glimpse into my whacky world called Tuesdays with Taraleigh. This week I will give you a Magical Unicorn Card Reading. Who knows what next week has in store. Maybe I’ll bring you on a walk. Maybe I’ll teach you how to cook something. Maybe I’ll tell you a story. Without further ado, here’s this week’s video.
Let me know how his card resonated with you by leaving a comment below.
The awesome in me sees and bows to the awesome in you,
Everyone was put on this earth to shine their lovelights, but for some reason so many of us allow our lights to be dimmed for one reason or another. It’s so much easier to place blame on someone for dimming your lovelight instead of taking responsibility for it.
“It’s my boss’s fault. I get in trouble every time I shine too much so I turn my lovelight down.”
“It’s my husband’s fault. He’s constantly telling me why I’m inadequate and I start to believe him so I turn my lovelight down.”
“It’s my best friend’s fault. She passive aggressively makes comments about the awesome choices I’ve made in my life so in order to not make her feel bad about herself I turn my lovelight down.”
“It’s the winter’s fault. I don’t like the cold and the dark so I turn my lovelight down til summer.”
“It’s the rock in my front yard’s fault. Every time I go outside it looks down on me so I turn my lovelight down.”
We can place the blame on everyone and everything, but the truth is we are the only ones who have control over our lovelight switches and dimmers. It doesn’t matter what anyone else says or does to you. You are in control, not them. If someone is dimming your love light, you’re allowing it to happen.Continue reading →