If there’s one book you should read (besides mine slated to release in February) it’s The 4 Agreements by Miguel Ruiz.
Today we’re going to talk about the second agreement, “Don’t Take Anything Personally.”
This one is one of the hardest agreements for most people to master and let me tell you…I’m still working on this one. It’s a doozy!
You may be totally right. I may be totally crazy…but if I am immune to opinions and actions of others then I won’t become the victim of needless suffering by obsessing on whether or not you think I’m crazy.
I put myself out in the world on a daily basis by sharing videos, photos and words. Sometimes people say really nice things and sometimes people are just downright mean. Some of the negative comments I’ve received looked like this:
“You would look better with a bag over your head.”
“Her only talent is breathing.” (On a video of me dancing)
“Taraleigh Weathers is friggin annoying.”
“Are you kidding me with this sh*t.”
You get the point. People can be mean. A couple of years ago these comments would have crushed me. I would have forgotten about all the positive feedback I received and focused on these worrying whether or not I was ugly, annoying and had any talent. Since I read The 4 Agreements I looked at those comments in a different light.
“Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality.”
Maybe those people were jealous. Maybe they were bored. I don’t know what motivated them take the time and energy to try to tear me down, but it’s ALL about them and not at ALL about me. People who are happy wouldn’t write these things about someone they don’t even know in real life. It’s obvious they’re suffering and I feel compassion for them and forgive them. Knowing it has nothing to do with me allows me to move on. It allows me to be immune to the opinions and actions of others and kept me from being the victim of needless suffering.
The same goes when I get positive feedback. I won’t let all the awesome things you all say about me go to my head because nothing others do is because of me. It’s pretty arrogant to think what others say and do is all about me. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality…so if you are taking the time to give someone positive feedback it is a projection of your own reality. If you find yourself trolling message boards and leaving mean comments about people think about what that means about you…since it’s ALL about YOU and YOUR Reality.
Don’t give a flying fart what others think of you and you’ll be free to be you in all your freaky glory. <<<Tweet this
Is this concept hard for you to put into practice? I totally get it. I get a lot of support around this since I’m a human being and as a human I have an ego.
What are you taking personally right now? How can you apply this agreement to the situation? Let’s talk about it. Join the conversation.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. I’m grateful for you.
Love and light,