Why I almost face palmed myself to death

Has anyone out there ever been in a relationship where you ask for what you need and then the person doesn’t listen and instead does whatever they want and then when you tell them that’s not what you meant, they somehow turn it around and blame you leaving you feeling like you did something wrong and that you might be kinda crazy?

I was and this time it wasn’t a romantic relationship, but the one I was in with my publisher. My palm became a permanent fixture on my face.

face·palm
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noun

  1. 1.
    a gesture in which the palm of one’s hand is brought to one’s face, as an expression of disbelief, shame, or exasperation.

You may think that the part of the publishing journey that brought on the most face palms would have happened when I was actually writing the book, but it’s wasn’t. The last two weeks of getting everything just right was the face palmiest.

My people pleasingness was challenging the crap outta me.  

Taking the easy way out and not standing up for myself wasn’t an option this time. This book, this thing that I’d be working on for five years was about to become a reality Continue reading

Holy poop emoji! I wrote a book.

When I cry tears of joy, I say that I’m leaking awesome. You’ve made me leak so much awesome in the past two days since I started taking pre-orders for my book How to Rock Your Life: Maintain the Magic of Live Music in Your Everyday Experience. So much so, that I’ve had to up my water drinking game because I’ve become so dehydrated from all the leaking. Thank you for making me leak. <3 <3 <3 

Every time I see that a new order for a book has come in, I shriek. And I shriek with A LOT of enthusiasm. EVERY SINGLE TIME. My husband loves it. So far, I’ve shrieked over fifty times!! Good thing I’m at This Wonderful Place and we don’t have any neighbors nearby.

 It’s the same feeling I get when Ryan Montbleau and I are doing a retreat together and he’s performing one of my favorite songs and I yell, “Play it again,” and he says, “OK” and starts to play it again and I get really excited because Continue reading

I’m an impostor

There are times when I don’t have rainbows shooting out of my ass. Here’s a story about one of those times:

 

My heart sank down past my gut into my root chakra until it quickly plummeted to the ground at full speed smashing into a million pieces of biodegradable glitter.

These feelings of dread were brought on because the Huffington Post, where I’ve chosen to publish a lot of my favorite interviews and articles, decided to shut the platform down. Over 200 thousand people have seen and/or shared the work I’ve published there.

Publishing with the HuffPost, instead of pursuing other paid writing gigs, was what I did because I suffer from something called Impostor Syndrome. I just learned that was a thing from my friend Lisa just a day ago.

Impostor Syndrome is a concept describing individuals who are marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a “fraud”. Despite external evidence of their competence, those exhibiting the syndrome remain convinced that they are frauds and do not deserve the success they have achieved. Proof of success is dismissed as luck, timing, or as a result of deceiving others into thinking they are more intelligent and competent than they believe themselves to be.

Holy guacamole! I do that all the time. When the amazing people at Zappos flew Continue reading

How Author Jen Sincero Almost Killed My Book Baby

Something I’ve been cooking up for quite some time is about to pop. This mongoose of a project almost didn’t take flight because furocious winds threatened to blow its pages all over the place. A larger than life gust of wind came out of nowhere and almost caused this determined bird to almost drop out of the sky and onto the ground becoming a pile of lifeless feathers.

What was the cause of such a soul shaking blow to my book baby?

I’ll tell you what did it. It’s actually not an it, but a who. Her name is Jen Sincero and her book You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life had me doubting my greatness and crushed my awesome life.

Bitch.

Here’s the story: Galavanting leisurely around town, I felt something wet hit me on the tip of my nose when the skies suddenly opened up. As the rain literally rained on my parade, I bolted like the lightning that was about to strike into the store closest to where I was. The establishment I threw myself into happened to be Urban Outfitters. Wasting time as I waited for the storm to pass, I scanned the vinyl section and noticed the Meghan Trainer album. I took a mental note to remember that in December when it was my husband’s birthday. He loves her music.

As I put Meghan back in her place, out of the corner of my eye, I spotted the book section. Being that I finally put the finishing touches on my book that day and was about to design a cover, I danced over to check out the inventory for inspiration when I felt a jolt so big, I couldn’t move. I saw Jen’s book. Feeling so many things, I just about puked up the lentil soup I ate for lunch.

What was causing my visceral reaction? At the time my book was titled, The Badass Self-Help Book: 12 Steps to Ignite Your Awesome. Everything was in to my publisher and all systems were a go. Until that moment that is. My title had two of the same words as Jen’s and those words weren’t common ones; Badass and awesome. Shit. That last one wasn’t one of the words, but how I felt.

Opening Jen’s book with ferocious rage, I read her super inspiring words and messages and felt pissed off and personally attacked by each one. After torturing myself, I put the book back and ventured back out in the storm. I’d rather be soaked to the bone than be in that store with that book.

Temper tantruming my way home (which is a mile and a half walk), I was totally freaking out! Feeling defeated, I decided that since my book already exists, it was just written by someone else, I should give up on my book altogether. Even though I had spent a couple of years working on this project, this took the sparkle out of my party pants. After throwing myself the pity party of the century for a couple of days, I took out my hypothetical glitter and dumped it over my head Flashdance style.

My first reaction to seeing Jen’s book was my ego totally trippin out and venturing down a rabbit hole. Blind at the time, I didn’t see that her book would be just the blessing I didn’t know I needed. Jen, just like her title suggests, inspired me to be a badass and to stop doubting my greatness and to start living an awesome life. I reread my book hundreds of times and finally figured out what my book truly had to say and boy, was it unique. My book, just like me, is obsessed with live music and in the game of rocking your life! It’s purpose is to show you that it is possible to maintain the live music magic in your everyday experience.

If I hadn’t been punched in the gut by Jen’s book, my book wouldn’t have evolved into the divine masterpiece that it turned out to be. Thank you Jen! I’m sorry I called you a bitch. You’re a goddess! You and your book are both amazing and even though we’ve never met and you have no idea who I am, you had an epic impact on my book which is now titled, How to Rock Your Life: Maintain the Live Music Magic in Your Everyday Experience.

I’ll be taking pre-orders soon so stay tuned. Does that excite you as much as it does me? Leave a comment and tell me. Sometimes I need a little cheerleading magic. ❤️

The magic in me sees the magic in you,

Taraleigh

Pre/Post Show Herbs that Will Rock Your Life

I’m so excited about our next guest blogger. Her name is Katie O’Connor and she is an herbal magician. For realzzzzzz. Over a year ago (when I finally realized that dairy was slowly killing me) my digestion and gut health was a disaster zone. Calling Katie up to have her make me a customized herbal blend was a life saver (literally) and I totally blame her for my non-bloated stomach, shiny hair and healthy glow. 

Today on the blog, she’s going to share with you information on which herbs will set the gearshift for the high gear of your soul so you can rock your life before, during and after the show. You’ll feel just like Mr.T must have felt the first time he rode a unicorn. If you resonate with Katie’s advice, I’m so excited to share that she’ll be leading an online class just for you where we’ll dive deep into the world of herbs. Stay tuned for the date and sign up info. 

These are all recommendations. You are responsible for your own body and what you choose to put in it. <3 <3 <3 

Take it away Katie!!!!

The time has come! What are YOU doing for New Years Eve???! Well if you’re a friend or a follower of Taraleigh, maybe just maybe you’ll be at MSG seeing the good ol band called Phish. Although I am sadly missing out on the grand event this year, I would still love to share with you some of my top tips for staying healthy and happy pre/during/post show!

Pre-Show Vibes

  • The key is planning. As much as you may not be someone that enjoys planning-it is smart to get what you need ready before! Here are some things that make the cut for me! And remember, don’t overdo it by trying to do too much before the big night (or nights). If you’re traveling and visiting another city, yes please do visit friends, sightsee etc, but try to keep it easy and stress-free. You need to save that energy for the show!
      • Supplements and Beverage Fuel!
        • Vitamin C is a great one to prevent hangover, and keep your immune system boosted as you dance and party into the night!
        • If you have time and access to a juicer; go crazy with your fruits and veggies, if not there are plenty of places you can get fresh juice these days; especially in NYC! Some of my faves to add besides orange (the obvious vitamin C booster):
          • Carrot/apple/ginger
          • Greens like kale, spinach, celery, cucumber
        • Adaptogens are another great way to keep your body energized and ward off traveling stress. Adaptogens help boost your body’s resistance to physical & emotional stress. Some of my faves are Ashwagandha, Astragalus, Ginseng, Holy Basil, Maca, and Rhodiola.
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Why Journaling About What You Love Encourages Mindfulness

Working in collaboration with others is how I do things best. Besides marriage where I thrive with a single partner, in pretty much everything else I do best when I work with multiple partners. Lit up by this concept, my wheels have been turning at full speed making glitter shoot out of my ears. I reached out to a gaggle of my favorite people and asked them if they’d be interested in being guest bloggers on this site as well as guest teachers for the online classes I’ve been wanting to offer to my live music lovin friends (aka YOU!). The response I got was larger than I thought possible which made me leak awesome out of my eyes (aka tears of joy).

Introducing my first guest blogger, Charles McElroy.

Charles is the founder of Goldleaf, a science-forward printing company for cannabis growers, patients and enthusiasts. A former volunteer with Marijuana Policy Project, a history supporting veterans’ education and access to medical marijuana, and several years studying permaculture and organic farming in Ohio and Colorado, McElroy created Goldleaf to benefit the evolving recreational and medical cannabis communities. Goldleaf products are available worldwide and the company also provides custom design services, now adorning select dispensaries and white-label products across the U.S. Formerly COO at Noble Denim & Victor Athletics, a sustainable and ethical clothing manufacturer, McElroy holds a B.S. in Engineering Technology and Management from Ohio University with an MBA track at Miami University in Business Informatics.

Basically, Charles is the bomb diggidy! 

Charles is now going to share with you why journaling about what you love encourages mindfulness. If you resonate with what he shares and want to go even deeper, stay tuned for his online class coming soon. Take it away Charles!

The practice of writing is therapeutic. Writing about something that interests you and invigorates your every being can be even more valuable. Life is full of complex moments, split-second decisions and seemingly meaningless events that end up shaping our perception. There isn’t much we can do about any of it except be who we want to be and make the best choices possible. This can be an intimidating and even suffocating acknowledgment, and it’s one reason why teaching our brains to be mindful is so important. After all, being mindful is to be fully aware of the now moment, which gives us precious perspective on our own actions and realities. Continue reading

My ego made me do it

I just committed an unexpected act of kindness and it felt freakin good. My ego was all like, “Hellz yeah Taraleigh! You’re such a good person.”

I must admit something to you. My intentions weren’t totally pure. The helper’s high I felt when I did the nice thing I did made my entire body tingle and the feels were really freakin delicious. I did what I did not only because I knew it would make someone’s life easier, but I did it because I knew the helper’s high was a part of the equation.

Those high vibes motivate me to do even more kind things for people and to spread the love further and further.

Maybe that makes me selfish and egotistical, but who cares?

May we all be a little more selfish and egotistical by being radically kind this holiday season and beyond!!!

Ways to be selfish and egotistical:

 

  • Write a letter of appreciation for someone who has affected your life in a positive way.
  • Purchase a gift for someone for no reason except that you know they’ll like it.
  • Volunteer your time and energy into a cause you believe in.
  • Offer to babysit for a mom and/or dad in your life that needs a little relief to do something for themselves.
  • Shovel your  neighbor’s driveway.
  • Cook a meal for someone who’s super busy. 
  • Call a loved one you don’t talk to on a regular basis to let them know you’re thinking about them.
  • Donate to your favorite charity.
  • Make a playlist of songs that remind you of someone and send it to them.
  • Leave a package of someone’s favorite foods and drinks on their doorstep for when they come home after a busy day.

What are you favorite ways to be selfish and egotistical? Leave a comment below.

Love you!

The Magic in me sees the magic in you,

Why Live Music is the Fountain of Youth

I’m a believer that live music is the fountain of youth. Have you heard of the blue zones before? If not, they are the areas of the world where people live the healthiest and longest lives. Going to shows is just as important to your health and well-being as eating well, getting a good night’s sleep, fostering your relationships and exercising. Maybe one day we’ll all be able to deduct our concert tickets on our taxes because it’s a key factor to our productivity at work. Fingers crossed! In the meantime, I’m going to share with you the nine secrets (plus one of my own) people in the blue zones know and live by. My discovery has been that everything they know and do, we live music fans know too and do too! Check it out <3 

1. Move naturally. It’s NOT bench pressing 100 lbs that will keep ya thriving, but it IS moving in the way you naturally do. The way I dance at a show is a perfect example of that. The music comes on and my body just moves. I don’t have a plan and I don’t think about it. The dance just happens. It’s super obvious when you see kids at live music shows. They can’t help but boogie. Other ways you can incorporate this into your life is by playing your favorite tunes and dance to them while cooking, showering, cleaning and getting dressed. Park far away from your destination and walk. Take the stairs. 

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Tony Ozier Inspired Auto Tone Sushirrito

I interviewed Tony Ozier about his newest album Auto Tone and it was published in the HuffPost. (Read the full interview HERE) He shared with me that his favorite healthy snack is roasted nori which is something we have in common. When I was in Las Vegas to see Phish for Halloween in 2016, my hubby and I arrived from the airport starving. I can’t remember where we got it, but when it caught our eyes, we knew we had to have it in our bellies.

What was it? It was a sushirrito and it IS as amazing as it sounds. I created one with Tony in mind that you can make at home. It’s funky and fabulous, just like Tony’s newest album! 

Auto Toned Sushirrito

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Not a late night ditch party kind of ditch.

Feeling scatterbrained and unable to ever finish what I started, my business was difficult, frustrating and stuck in a ditch (and not a fun late night ditch party kind of ditch).

One day I asked my coach friends , “How can I use my natural way of being FOR me instead of AGAINST me cause who I’m trying to be ain’t workin.”

Light bulb moment fo sho! I’m going to tell you ALL about it and what I did.

If what I said resonates with you, today is the absolute last day you can join me for Rock Your Business. Sign up and learn more about the month long support and mentorship program HERE or send me a message HERE.

The magic in me sees the magic in you,