Social media has been extremely interesting lately. It seems everyone has a very strong opinion about what is going on in the world, what is the right and wrong way to grieve what’s happened and what the best course of action is now. It’s really easy to get lost up in there. I’m very sensitive to energy and scrolling my Facebook feed had me feeling a lot anxiety from many of the posts that I read that came from a place of fear. From fear comes hate and that scares the sparkles out of me.
I had to step away for a moment and catch my breath.
After I took a moment, I remembered that no matter what the question is or what’s going on the answer is always love. No exceptions.
Photo by Britt Nemeth Photography
When I’m looking at any situation I ask myself, “What would love do?” Lately these are the answers I’ve been hearing. Continue reading →
I used to be afraid to take big leaps in my life which led to me feeling stuck in situations that didn’t serve me for way too long. I remained stuck in a job or five that I hated that weren’t in alignment for me, an abusive relationship and countless other things.
Once I finally leapt and took action to change my situations I never once said, “Wow! I wish I was back in that thing that sucked.”
When I have conversations with people about joining Rock Your Life Mentorship (my 6 month virtual coaching program for live music fans) some of them are really afraid to invest the money into themselves because they think they’ve never done it before and/or don’t see the value in doing so.
The truth is as music fans we are constantly investing time, energy and money into ourselves by purchasing tickets to shows and festivals, buying downloads of the epic shows we’ve attended, booking hotel rooms for multi-night runs, purchasing plane tickets to see our favorite bands in faraway lands etc.
We choose to invest in that way because we are putting our energy into something that we love that makes us feel really good. Shows are the places where we feel free to be our freaky selves and where we blow off steam and let loose while getting lost in a jam. Going to a really great show can keep us going in our daily lives for awhile until our batteries empty abruptly when we get a dose of “reality” if our “reality” isn’t in alignment with who we truly are.
If you added up all the money you’ve spent on live music experiences you would see that you are already a master in investing in yourself. If you look back you may have also noticed that even when you didn’t think you had the money for that NYE run five years ago, you somehow made it happen and the money appeared some how. It always does when you REALLY want to do something.
What if you could feel a little bit of that awesome feeling you feel at a really great show on a daily basis? What if you took off the mask of who you think you’re supposed to be and just started being you in all your magical glory? If you can feel amazing at a festival you can feel amazing anywhere. The festival lives within you and when you start to take baby steps towards rocking your life, life starts to feel like one big festival.
People often ask me what I do for “work” and one of the things I do that makes my heart sing is that I lead a virtual coaching program for live music fans called Rock Your Life Mentorship.
The mentorship provides so many amazing things for its participants (like community, accountability, the tools to manifest all the concert tickets you desire) and one of my favorite parts is when we get to connect with the mentors on the phone. Those calls are always magical because the people I pick are heart and soul centered, open and honest and ready to answer any questions that are brought to them by the participants. Even though some of them might be your idols that you put up on pedestals they are just like us. Sometimes they can’t get out of bed, sometimes they feel like their worlds are crashing down on them and sometimes they are afraid to step on the stage and play the first note.
We’ve gotten to talk to Oteil Burbridge from the Allman Brother’s Band and Dead and Company, Zach Deputy, Mike Rempel from Lotus, Eli Winderman from Dopapod, Matt Butler from Everyone Orchestra, Brock Butler from Perpetual Groove, Bill Carbone from Max Creek, Ryan Monbleau, Al Smith from American Babies and others.
Rock Your Life Mentorship is starting in November and our first mentor is photographer Jay Blakesberg. If you love live music and have seen photos from shows and festivals, chances are most of the really great ones came from Jay. He’s photographed everyone from the Grateful Dead to Paul Simon to Dave Matthews and everyone in between. His newest book (which I’m featured in) is called Hippie Chick: a Tale of Love, Devotion and Surrender.
This weekend I learned it’s time to stop pretending that I’m not a powerful leader. Even though I have been leading programs, retreats and day long events for awhile now, I felt as though I was wearing a leader mask because admitting that I was actually a leader was petrifying. I co-led a retreat for the people who participated in my Rock Your Life Mentorship that felt called for an in person experience. We met at a house that we rented on Lake Erie in a town that none of us had ever been to.
All weekend long those beautiful folks who were in attendance expressed their thanks to me for bringing them all together, for creating a magical safe space for them to explore their true authentic selves and for allowing others to take the lead and shine their lights too. At first I was Continue reading →
Many people come up to me and ask me how I’m happy and positive ALL the time. My answer is, “I’m not.”
Even though I am a sparkly unicorn, I’m also a human being. As a human being it’s impossible to be happy and positive ALL the time. Being happy all the time is like music without the rest symbol. It wouldn’t exist. The rest is just as important to the music as the notes.
Sadness is just as important to life as the happiness.
Festivals have their ups and downs too. At Grand Point North this year I witnessed Marco Benevento choosing to literally Continue reading →
In the past I decided that I was sick. What happened was I found myself sick ALL the time. I had chronic sinus infections, irritable bowel syndrome and achy joints. I would find myself saying, “If someone around me gets sick I’m the one that’s going to catch it.” What happened was I always caught it and got it worse than the person I caught it from.
I also had a story that I was klutzy and always hurting myself. During those years I shattered my toe, broke my heal, broke my wrist, tore a ligament in my ankle and was constantly falling off my bike and tripping over my feet.
There used to be a clear divide between festival me and real life me which left me feeling like I was wearing a mask in my day to day life. It’s really hard to be truly happy and abundant in all the areas of your life when you aren’t allowing your true authentic self out to play.
For me it was easy to do at a festival because I felt safe there. I danced like everyone was watching, but I didn’t care. I felt free from the judgement Continue reading →