There is a new syndrome in town and it’s becoming a world-wide epidemic. It’s something you might be suffering from right now and it’s very serious. What it is? Check out this scenario and let me know if any of it sounds familiar?
This weekend I consciously and intentionally decided to stay home and celebrate Halloween at home. instead of flying down to Las Vegas for Phish. I felt good about my decision. That is until I turned on my phone and started scrolling down my Facebook feed seeing photo after photo like these:
My boobs are too small. Oh wait! No. My boobs are too big. My butt is so huge and full of cellulite. I’m so gross! If I suck in my stomach really hard it will look ok. Ugh. It’s still not flat enough. My thighs are so huge everyone must be staring at them thinking horrible things. My gums are too big and my teeth are too small. I probably should never smile again. Damn it! Why aren’t my eyes blue and my hair blonde? My brown eyes and hair are so boring. Why do I have so many curves! Go away curves! If I was taller, thinner and prettier my life would be so much better.
This is the way I used to think about myself. I would never think those things about anyone else ever! I was my own worst enemy.
I put all my worth into what I looked like, so I was never enough.
Society and the media put so much emphasis on what you look like and not much on what’s going on inside. I decided to conduct an experiment of my own to see what my peers thought of my physical appearance.
I asked people on my Facebook page to describe what I looked like physically. I asked them to be honest and to not hold back. The answers I got kind of shocked me. I thought people were going to describe what I looked like focusing on my flaws, but that’s not what happened.
Here’s what they said: Continue reading
Yes. It’s true. There was a time in my life when a little boy who was in kindergarden had me visualizing throwing him down the stairs. After he crawled back up the stairs, I pictured myself spitting on him and throwing him back down the stairs. I obviously couldn’t ever imagine taking action on the vision, but I was so disturbed that I even had this thought in my head. The thing is, I actually really love children, so this visualization was totally out of character and I felt horrible about it.
It had nothing to do with that little boy who was a genius at pushing my buttons.
It had everything to do with that fact that I was leading a double life and I was mad about it. My soul wanted one thing and my actions didn’t align.
After I graduated college and dabbled in the unpredictable wild world of Continue reading
Hello. My name is Taraleigh and I guide people who are in love with live music. I help them let the authentic expression of themselves that they let out at festivals show in their everyday lives, so they don’t have to feel like they’re leading a double life anymore. I teach them how to add more abundance into their lives so they can afford all the concert tickets they desire while having a lot of fun.
Sounds awesome doesn’t it? That’s because it is, but sometimes I totally forget to embody what I teach.
It’s interesting how I felt like I was sleeping through life instead of living it awake. I felt like I was in a rut and I didn’t know how to get out. I was stuck. I’m forever grateful to my own coaches that I’ve enrolled to support me. They opened my eyes to what I was doing. I’m excited to report that when I started to embody what I was teaching again that the sh*t really works!!!
Since I’m just one big mirror of you I’m guessing many of you can relate to what I’m saying.
One major thing I forgot to do that works like magic for the people I work with is to start my day with a Continue reading
A couple of days ago on Facebook I asked, “What’s the best thing you’ve ever done?”
The responses were so great. They looked a little like this:
Gave birth to my children.
Helped to make my children.
Went backpacking in Australia for four months by myself.
Saved a couple of lives.
Got into Phish.
Faced my biggest fear.
Married my best friend.
Finding forgiveness and letting go.
Made a conscious decision to be kind everyday and to be grateful everyday.
Miracled eight people from Maine with great seats at a Grateful Dead show.
Then someone asked me what the best thing I’ve ever done was. At first I was stumped. I started going into the files of my brain to figure out what I did in my life Continue reading
Oteil Burbridge is one of the best bassists in the world. He’s a two time grammy winner who rocks out all over the world with the legendary Allman Brothers’ Band. When we first met it was at a music festival called Jungle Jam in Costa Rica where he was playing with Grateful Dead drummer Bill Kreutzman. I saw him on stage with the biggest smile and I thought, “I want to be friends with that man.”
The next day I was in a yoga class and I looked over and the smiling bassist was practicing right next to me. After class I told him how awesome I thought he was and that I wanted to be friends with him. This could have freaked him out, but he said, “I think Continue reading
Last Saturday night I had a dream that I did an interpretive acrobatic improv dance on stage dressed in a cat suit with musician Marco Benevento. I texted him and told him my dream and he responded, “Maybe you should today!?!?”
Here’s the text message:
I said yes and then the nerves set in because I was only half Continue reading
For years I was faking it. I thought I loved myself, but my actions didn’t come close to matching. I acted as though I was mediocre. I treated myself in ways I wouldn’t treat my worst enemy. The way I was acting toward myself was being mirrored back to me in all areas of my life, from my diet, I would drive from fast food restaurant to fast food restaurant raiding their dollar menus and I would eat entire loaves of bread and quarts of ice-cream even though they would hurt my stomach badly. It affected my relationships, too, and the ways I treated my body because I was so mean and focused on hating parts of it. My careers or lack there of suffered as I was in a job where I would pray I would get into a car accident so I didn’t have to go or held jobs just for the money. Even my home environment felt it. It was a disaster zone full of clutter. And even my hygiene was affected like how I hadn’t gone to the dentist in years. It was reflected in the way I dressed myself. As my grandma would say, “I was Continue reading
It’s about to get really personal up in here. I feel really called to share what’s been going on with me. It’s something that’s rarely talked about. It’s something when many people feel a lot of shame. It’s something many people keep a secret. It’s something many people suffer in silence from. It’s a miscarriage.
Most of you probably don’t know that my husband Dan and I have been open to having a baby enter our lives for about a year now. Almost exactly a year to the date when we decided to “let it fly and see what happens” my period was a day late so I took a pregnancy test. I saw the result and said to Dan, “We have a situation!!!” We were so excited.
We told our close friends and family the great news. Everyone was over the moon excited for us. We were told to not tell the world until three months because “you never know what can happen.” I thought that was kind of strange because when do we ever really know what’s going to happen? I don’t know what’s going to happen in the next five minutes let alone nine months from now, but I did keep the news mostly in the family.
At nine weeks we had our first mid-wife appointment. Apparently at nine weeks a baby looks more like a shark than like a baby. Dan and I were really excited to see the shark Continue reading
John Lennon was one of the most famous dreamers of our time. Dreaming is awesome and important, but problems arise when we become all dreams and no action. I was so guilty of this. I was an epic dreamer. I got high speaking about all the great ideas I had, the things I was going to do, and all the fabulous places I was going to travel. When it came to actually doing something about making those dreams become a reality, I got scared and and it paralyzed me. When obstacles pop up (which they always do if you’ve got big dreams), I came up with a million and one excuses (none of which were my fault) about why that dream didn’t pan out and then quickly schemed up a new and exciting dream to talk about. All dreams and no action.
I experienced a false sense of joy and satisfaction because it wasn’t real. I was living in a fantasy world.
By being a dreamer with no action, I also experienced harsh feelings of failure and often felt lost in the world. It was much easier to float above the clouds and start dreaming again. If you are like me and are a badass rebel, you will more than likely Continue reading